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Midlife Choices or Crisis?

“We have two lives, and the second begins when we realize we only have one.”

A midlife crisis is not typically actually experienced during the midpoint of one's life, which for most developed human populations would be at the age of 35 to 40. But I guess it depends on how deep and intense your life experience has been.  

 I do not really agree to the term being used as a negative thing. A midlife crisis to me is when you stop, think and change the choices and decisions you made in life which does not serve your current life propose. A midlife crisis varies from men to women so I made a little research about the topic and found a few things that I personally relate to that I will share with you below in this article. 



Signs You're Having a Midlife Crisis:  Some women find themselves facing a challenging (and possibly eye-opening) time anywhere between their 40s and early 50s — something that's been referred to as a "midlife crisis" since the '60s. "In some ways, we look for the midlife crisis," says Dr. Robi Ludwig, a psychotherapist and author of Your Best Age is Now. Read book reviews here

"And it is — on some level — a self-fulfilling prophecy because we really can experience a crisis throughout various phases of our lives. So I think it's when you're going through a transition and an adjustment during the mid-years and we slap the title 'midlife crisis' onto it," Dr. Ludwig says. This is a possible sign that you're traveling down a bumpy road to your midlife. 


YOU'RE ASKING YOURSELF DEEP, PROBING QUESTIONS

"One of the things that can happen and identify the onset of a midlife crisis is feeling ill-fit for the life you're leading," says Dr. Ludwig. "There's a tendency to stop and pause during midlife and question whether you're on the right track." In other words, you feel the need to give yourself a strong evaluation about where you wanted to be in life versus where you actually are.

Perhaps you realize you've been following the dreams your parents set out for you or you've been abiding by the "rules" of society. "There's suddenly a stronger desire to listen to one's soul, and perhaps the crisis comes when you feel off-track," continues Dr. Ludwig.

However, keep in mind that a period of self-reflection can be positive, she adds, "because it can get you to eliminate those things that are no longer in sync with who you are today." Also, a 2016 study from the British Psychological Society discovered that individuals who experience either a quarter or midlife crisis by becoming ultra-focused on their purpose in the world were likely to find creative solutions for their challenges. Here are some quotes from Roni Ludwig book:

"This enhanced curiosity may be the 'silver lining' of crisis," stated the co-author of the research in a press release. "Armed with this knowledge, people may find the crises of adult life easier to bear."



“Midlife is the time when we become most capable of managing the ambiguities and polarities of life. We come to terms with the fact that the world doesn't always make send and usually can't be controlled.”


“Sometimes it's the sharp, unexpected turns of life that turn out to be our best teachers and ultimately, might just be in your best interest, too.”


“Include what you love to do in life and take the magical moments as they come...use this time to say "yes" to your soul.”


“A spiritual perspective at midlife helps us to focus on what's really important in terms of feeling more connected to the world in a meaningful purposeful way.”
― Robi Ludwig, Your Best Age Is Now: Embrace an Ageless Mindset, Reenergize Your Dreams, and Live a Soul-Satisfying Life



BY AMY CAPETTA
Jun 14, 2018





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